More Tips Downsizing, Moving or Selling Home.

I have moved and changed residences many-a-times and for most of us, the progress is not something we look forward to. It seems as though each and every time we go through a move, no matter how much we plan and how much time, money or help we have nor how much or little of stuff we have, it’s never an easy process..

Moving or relocating itself can be overwhelming, a process, and moving and downsizing, is a process within a process.

Here below : I’ve listed additional and more (then my last post) of general tips of the process, even though it’s kindly lengthy, but wanted to cover some-things, as it gets hectic during a move. * Whether you are moving local, out of state into another residence or selling your home and moving, (if been at a residence for more than a couple years or already have a lot of stuff), the sooner you start the planning of the uncluttering and downsizing process, the easier it will be to go through, the whole process.

1. First the uncluttering, this can consist of going through each closet, each drawer and each and every space in each room. Evaluating what all you have and what you can rid of, which includes all of what’s in all junk drawers, kitchen drawers, your clothes, your shoes and all your stuff, that means even going through your bathroom toiletries, any papers saved, important paperwork or documents saved, contents of file cabinets and everything all around your home. Cleaning out things that are garbage, or (old and outdated such as: food, spices, medical supplies, medicines, beauty products etc.) also things that are broken (either fix or repair them or if beyond repairing that you’ll ever find the time to do) and things you don’t really need or won’t be really needing (think in terms of what needs for your end goal and what path you are going onto). Separate things into groups, such as, garbage to throw away, items to be donated or given to others or things you could possibly sell.

2. As you start the process, re-organize all things according to what they are, where they need to be, put them or store them (for convenient usage or easy accessibility or if not being used that often, then store away). Example: kitchen (what goes into kitchen area) and what will go in each room, bedrooms, bathrooms, office, closet, drawers and if you have a garage as well. Also, any important documents saved or wanting to save (put in file cabinet or file boxes and on each file folder label the contents or what it is pertaining to.

3. Once de-cluttering is done, (you still may have to decide what you will need to get rid of or keep, if it’s going to your new residence, (always a good idea to take photos or measurements, when viewing or deciding on a new residence even in order to put furniture through doorways to see what would fit), then you’ll know what you’ll be bringing to your new residence. * While de-cluttering, you may also need to get a storage and figure out how large of a storage you will need for the things you want to keep in storage, until you move or for things that you may want to keep, but will not be taking to your new residence (maybe not right away) or you may need to clear out your storage if moving out of state and figure out what you will do with all of those items. You may also need to return anything you borrowed from a neighbor.

4. Getting a calendar (especially ones that have large enough square boxes on it, so that you can write things on it. This way you can write down on the calendar the things you have to do and people, contacts or companies you need to tell you are moving. Also, block time off that you will be moving and this helps give you a time frame, keeps you organized and aware of all the things you have to do, get done and when..

5. When planning to move, always investigate the area in which you’re moving to, the neighborhood itself, the nearby surroundings, including what and who is next-door to you. Think of safety factors for you and your family.

6. Once you make plans to move (you may need to clean or repair some things in your present residence before you move-out, (a more throughout cleaning can be done once all of your belongings are out). If renting, often security deposits are given back only, if things are clean and in order when you leave or if you are selling your home, you may need to get repairs, painting and things fixed that will be under inspection and take care of those. * When moving, or deciding to move there are all kinds of checklists you can make or find, here are some things to consider, months and weeks before you move. (other things to consider, during and after your move as you scroll down)

A. You may need to review your present lease and (within the terms of lease)plan to notify your current landlord and let them know the date you will be moving-out and coordinate it with the date your new residence will be ready to move-in. As well, you will need a plan if you are selling your home, de-cluttering it, staging it and anticipating a closing date. * You will need to plan ahead of what you will need to set aside before packing up, such as tools, necessities for yourself, children and pets. “Some right-away essential items” to keep in a separate area, later packed up and kept with you (more on that as you scroll down).

B. There will be several contacts you will need to coordinate with at least a week or 2 before you move, making sure to have transferred to your new residence and ready, when you get there.

1. You will need to fill out a change of address form at your local post office, but (now-a-days) it can be done online (you put the date to stop present mail and when to start forwarding your mail) done at the USPS website (united states postal service) you will need your debit card or your credit card and a valid email address to verify it is you.

2. Insurance’s for home residence’s may need to be changed.

3. Services to stop, start and be transferred, such as electric, gas, water (utilities), pest control, phone, internet, pool or lawn services, cable and ( You may need to return the cable box to get refund or left with a charge for the box).

4. Let your employer know of when you will be at your new address, to update information so any important mail or tax documents go to correct address. Also let your employer know you need to schedule time to take off work to move, if need be.

C. Moving can have different costs:

1. You will need boxes to put all your things into, packaging paper (for breakable items and the proper packaging tape) grocery stores and liquor packaging stores offer free boxes, just ask them if they have any boxes.

2. You may need to hire movers, check for local reputable ones and get an estimate of the costs and ask questions. Get a folder or plastic bag to save all moving receipts in.

3. If moving by yourself, make arrangements for family or friends that can help you and decide what size rental or uhaul truck you may need and figure out the best driving route from your present address to your new address.

4. If you are moving out of state, you may need to research moving and shipping companies to help you. Make sure they have insurance and check your own auto insurance policy that might cover moving truck insurance and shipping assistance.

5. Make sure to also take your own vehicle in to update any services needed before your move (especially if you’re going to be moving out of state), you will want to have a thorough check of your vehicle, tires, oil changed to make sure your vehicle is going to be running well.

D. If moving with children, you’ll need to talk to your children about moving and having to move. You may need to research childcare and schools in your new community and register them for school and finalize any plans for childcare on moving day. If moving with pets, make sure to take your pet to the vet for a check up before you move, get all medicines and updated vaccinations if they are necessary and ask for copies of their vet records, get new ID tags and update address on your pets microchip (if they have one).

E. Once you start collecting up boxes, get or purchase boxes that are sturdy and make sure not to pack each box too heavy, and tape them up well. Keep package tape, tools, scissors and some plastic baggies handy, for small items, such as screws, door knobs, keys, brackets and such, this will help find them when you need need them or to put things back together.

1. Remember to pack up (in clear boxes so you can see in it or an Essential Bag), things you may need for yourself, any children and one for any pets with at least your first several days of being moved into your new place getting and settled. * For instance : pack up in that essentials bag, phone chargers, paper plates, plastic utensils, a set of beddings, towels and daily necessities or toiletries. When you first arrive at your new residence make your beds, so your not having to to scramble looking for your bedding and having to make it and find things, when you’re already exhausted from your hectic day. If traveling out of state you will need an essential bag and additional traveling needs-essential bag with things for the trip or ride.

2. If renting a uhaul or truck to move yourself: Pack-up the inside of the truck with the heaviest and largest items first in the back of the uhaul truck, then items such a night stands, lighter and smaller items as you pack truck up and work towards the front of truck’s back opening and don’t put anything that is fragile in the top upper cab space (if it has one), that could fall out and break. * Pack up heavier items in smaller boxes, such as books and for fragile things you may need just a little bigger box to make sure you have blankets, towels or bubble wrap, and packaging paper around the items, so they don’t get broken. Pack-up (in your vehicle, rental truck or in your storage) heavier boxes on bottom then lighter ones on top, make sure all boxes with fragile things in them are secured.

3. If you have smaller valuable items (jewelry and such) you should pack them to travel and kept personally with you.

F. When packing, try to pack up things that go in the same area or room (kitchen things, office things, etc.), use a marker to boldly write on each box, what room or area the boxes will be going into.

1. Specific color-masking-tape can be used on boxes, for each room or different colored labels can also be used, (in addition to the sturdy package tape used) this can help to differentiate the different areas the boxes will need to go.

2. Set aside a broom, mop, dustpan, duster, sponge, cleaning products, paper towels, and old rags for cleaning up when done packing and to have easy locating when you move-into your new residence to clean before putting all your things away.

3. Make sure to back-up all your files on your computer on the cloud or to an external hard drive and take pictures of your electronics (as where it is hooked-up) before you pack them up, so you’ll know how to hook them back up. Make copies of important documents and put them in a folder to take personally with you.

4. If there’s something specific in a box you want to remember, write what that item is inside the box, on the box. This will also help to locate it easier, later on. You may want to number each box as you finish packing them up (1st box # 1. and so on) and writing the contents as well, this way you’ll know how many boxes you have and could also differentiate specific numbers with what rooms or where they go. If shipping items, you may need to print off some moving box labels.

5. With in the last 2 weeks before you move out, re-evaluate what is in your refrigerator and freezer (eat-up, give away or get rid of what you can) and buy only last essentials that you’ll need so that you can clean everything out before you leave (so not to have a lot of food left and wasted). If moving local and there are refrigerated food you want to take with you, you can use some bagged ice and a cooler if need be.

G. You may want to research your new community that you are moving to and update your memberships to community organizations, subscription services, gyms, and clubs and you may also need to update your new address for any health insurance’s or if you receive social security. You may need to locate a new doctor, dentist or pharmacy and you may need to have medical records and prescriptions forwarded. Remember to make sure to say goodbye to your present doctor, dentist and pharmacist.

1. Important contacts to update once you get settled into your new residence or a few days before you move to your new address (depending on if you, will be needing to be ordering things right away or paying bills online) such as paypal, amazon, pet food company or any accounts that deliver things to you.

2. If you update information on bank accounts (make sure your debit and all credit cards match your address and zip codes as they have to match to be valid if using them to purchase online). You may want to go paperless and use online for bills-to pay. * My last move, we were such in a rush and had a little time left during the crunch time of moving, we hadn’t changed over or updated any of our bank information, debit cards, credit cards, none of our accounts online and we waited to the last minute to change your address online. It was a bit of a fiasco, we were lucky to be able to retrieve any important mail (as we had met the people that moved in to our residence after we left), but as far as our online accounts we had to just use our old address for a while to pay our bills online and until we can finish ordering the stuff that we needed to, from our credit cards and debit card and then just change the address it was going to so that we would get the items delivered to our new address.

H. Once you are all packed up and ready to move out: Everything should be cleaned up, the refrigerator and freezer should be cleared and cleaned out, take the garbage and the recycling out for the last time. Keep your phones charged. Have some cash on hand. Keep calm and organized as possible.

1. Once in your new residence, do a walk-through before putting things in place and setting up, making sure there’s no issues that need to be addressed. It may take a couple days to get acclimated to the new space, your new routine and where things should go. If you have small children or pets keep things childproof (such as sharp tools, cleaning chemicals etc.).

2. Locate the fuse box and water shut-off valves. The fuse box and water valve are two things that you don’t want to end up looking for when you really need them.

3. If needed, clean your new residence before putting things away.

4. Test the smoke detectors and A/C unit.

5. Change locks, if need be and get key copies.

6. Meet your neighbors

7. Re-locate local restaurants, eateries, gas stations etc. and learn roads and driving routes.

8. Settle in and enjoy your new residence!

Downsizing to Uncluttering

I have had to unclutter and downsize many-a-times (lots of stuff, lots of children, big family, sentimental collector) and as anyone that has gone through this process can tell you, it is not an easy task. Yet, if you simply start with uncluttering, then cleaning, then rearranging and begin there, it may make the chore a little easier.

Now, uncluttering takes a bit of organizing in itself and ultimately some of the goals could be ; to actually know what you have, to know where your stuff is or locate all your stuff, to save you time and money from having to acquire or purchase more things that you already have, also to free up space in your home (and yourself) and to get rid of unwanted, unused, unneeded, broken, and otherwise useless stuff (even if they are liked by you) as things take up space and possibly restricting your freedoms.

We can often make the mistake in feeling as though, if we don’t have all of our stuff, not enough stuff or able to get more stuff, that we are not complete or not finished, but “The little kettle can boil the water just as good as the big kettle, yet the little kettle can fit in more places”. After or even during this process, many feel by “Downsizing and uncluttering often creates an upsize in their lifestyle, their potential, their freedom and their mobility”!

So, we will find that by re-organizing our things, we realize just how much we have and may not really need. Then, being faced with deciding what to keep around and what not to. The next decision is whether to keep the excess of things and where to put or store them. Some people choose a closet or room in their home (if large enough), others use a storage facility to store their excess and additional items. Often, we just need to get rid of a lot of stuff and that can be the most difficult (which has many putting off this process) and even though there are plenty of people with suggestions on how to figure out and decide what to keep and what to get rid of (and many good suggestions), honestly; it will all come down to your own needs and your own decision.

Uncluttering can be done once a week, everyday, a little bit here and there or every month or so. It just depends on each individual, as some people have began making a habit or routine of uncluttering their life and make efforts to keep it uncluttered (often by not buying more and more stuff) as less buying means less spending on things you don’t really need and being able to save to do or have more of what you really need or want.

Some of us, begin uncluttering because we are attempting to sell our home and must begin the process (not only to help in reducing the chore of packing later, but also to unclutter and clean-up all around for better pictures of the home). There can be a variety or reasons.

One of the best ways I have found, to help me organize everything and keep it that way; is to place anything and everything in its own spot or which I like to call, “its own home”. In other words, if I have or find around my residence things such as pencils, pens, sharpener, paper clips, scotch tape or such, these would all go in a desk or in an office area (a drawer in the kitchen may also have a few of these items for quick finding and use), but basically the bulk of different types of things collected or that I have, I organize them within their own place.

All Holiday decor, can be separated by holiday and put into plastic bins and can be put in a storage area, attic or storage facility for next use. As you find things or pick up things, take a moment and put it back into its ‘home area’ and so on and so on..(that way, when you may be looking for something or wanting something you’ll know where to find it). . It’ll also save you time later, if you put things you find (or come across each day or so) in a ‘catchall basket’ (big and small one) or in a specific area and then put it all away when or as you can…Then of course, sometimes you won’t have time or (you may find or collect something and you might not be home) to put the item back in the right place, you may have to hold onto it (put it in a bag or something) until you can get it into its proper place.

Often when we move from one resident to another, there seems to always be that daunting chore of going through all of our things (once again) deciding what we’re going to take, what we’re not, what is trash, what we could sell, may give to family members and friends or donate. Of course if you have been downsizing or uncluttering here and there, it will be a lot easier upon you. Yet, it’s one chore that never seems to get easier, no many how many times we do it and it never fails, no matter how much we can organize and unclutter we never seem to realize how much stuff we have or have collected.

Make the time to take time and start going through the things you have and have collected. You may find some-things you had forgotten you had and could use right now. You are living your life right now, so why not choose to use or do something with them right now? After all, you have wanted, collected and kept them for a reason! Choose to use them or if need to save something (as items kept to be given to family or friends), then give them as a gifts. You possibly could sell some things and you can always donate them; as someone else may really want it or have use for it (they may not have been able to ever acquire some-things) and that would make them smile or make their day to find an item of need or want. If you have ever went thrift shopping you’d know what I mean..

I have other tips and tricks on coping with the process of downsizing and uncluttering that I will post later, but for now I recall a saying that suggested we stop waiting to use and enjoy the things we have…

So yeah, Start downsizing to upsize your life and while you are at it, Go Ahead…Use the good-stuff and enjoy them now, there.. I gave you permission!

C. Star.V

It’s 2021 !

We are now past the year of 2020 and I feel many people have a changed perspective about their lives and how to go about living them in this new year . Several things have changed in my life, how about yours?

As we leave 2020 and have learned to despise a virus, having to wear masks and be fearful, had left many without proper food, water or shelter nor the ability to earn a living; this has had many people tense, upset, confused and in despair. However, now there’s a vaccine to fight the virus, food being shared and other needs being taken care of and many new remote options for learning a skill and earning money.

As we come into a new year, this moment calls for a brief reflection. To recall all the hurdles and struggles we all overcame. It has been one of the most unsure and unstable year for most of us, with all the drama, trauma, obstacles and tough times. We have all went through something, that has either left us sad, scarred or bruised. Yet, we may have gotten a new insight about ourselves and in how to be more patient, resourceful and resilient.

We had experienced a social tragedy which questioned our humanity and morality, degraded decency, victimized many vulnerable people and made us more concerned with our own mortality. As we gather our thoughts, recalling our experiences and all of what is good, just and right; 2021 has begun.

Now calling out for us to be more conscientious socially, spiritually, culturally, caring more about our health and to respond to the past and future issues that may jeopardize many things in our world. As we can use this time now, to see more clear, in the need to take care of our world and the needs as they arise and to be aware of; what really is the real importance and what matters most to us, the process and paths we must take to protect it all and the opportunities to use to put it in action.

We all have our lists and ideas of how and what needs are to be addressed:

Some could be about our climate or the air and waterways in cleaning them up and keeping them clean. Others have concerns about farmers and slaughter houses, over breeding, inhumane treatment and killing of animals, chemicals and unhealthy substances and additives to our foods and what we ingest. There has been concerns about our healthcare industries, our government, our laws and rights, our law enforcement and the handling of any political or racial disputes in general. The more remotely active things became there has been concerns with children getting proper education and even children being bullied online because of their appearance. Many essential workers without jobs and may have became Ubers, Lyft, Doordash and Eat-street drivers (tipping is essential). There’s also concerns with Native Americans that live on reservations in having food, water, proper sanitizers and of those whom live in countries that don’t have proper facilities to refrigerate the Covid 19 vaccine. These are just a highlighted few….

To wrap it up, We took a pause in our lives, we re-defined our values and our priorities, we re-evaluated our definition of success, we took advantage of technology and made it work for us and we realized that planning is important, but kindness, compassion, empathy, spirituality, immunity and resilience are crucial.

Let’s all have a great New Year!

C. Star.V

Pet Ownership, Decades of learning.

“Having a pet has it’s joys and it’s struggles, but the exchange can be so worth it.”

This entry can be very informative, but it is lengthy compared to my other entries.

However, I just wanted to make sure I covered everything or as much as I could here. Please enjoy the information and share this article so others can be aware as well.

In the past decades I’ve had all kinds of pets from A-Z and I could say, I love all kinds of animals and I am an animal advocate. However, those whom have loved, cared for and had many pets, just like me can still question what to do and how to do it in the best way, with the least amount of stress.

Trying to figure out, the proper food to the proper care in knowing and learning the best ways in handling our pets, (at least the most efficient).The take away here in this post is that, there are things to consider before, during and after wanting and having a pet, that will make the journey of pet ownership (no matter what type of pet) more worth it and much happier for both pet and pet owner.

As in everything, people have different views and this can cause much conflict. Otherwise there is a lot of useful, valuable and good information out there, but it takes time to read, review and find answers and it can get confusing. Even an avid pet owner will still have hurdles now and then to endure. We all can learn and educate ourselves as there ate always more things to know..

“Using Common Sense” in all of our choices and decisions in life would help, but often obvious notions or prioritizing may not be well thought-out. There are basic, standard, and necessary things needed for pet ownership, as in any type of responsibility.

There’s countless information in books and on the internet in helping us, but where do we start? *Here are some basic things that should be considered in preparing for a better journey in pet ownership:

Choosing a pet: There are different needs, for different types of people and pets.

Where you live, the climate, do you live by the water (for safety reason and possible mosquitoes), your housing size (for the size of pet), whom lives with you (how will they and your new pet get along), what kind of plants, trees or bushes are around where you live (could they harm your pet if they ingest them), do you or will you have a fence enclosure to keep your pet safe and contained and other animals and strangers out, what are the laws and ordinances where you live (pertaining having your pet and where you can bring them), what kind of food will your pet require, will you be able to lift your pet by yourself if needed, are you willing and able to fit your pets needs into your budget, transporting (if need emergency care) and including your time required for the daily care and attention of the pet. If these things are considered carefully and are addressed properly, there is less frustration later. Issues may arise, but most of the time it is a matter of learning more about the proper needs and care of the pet.

Cost of a petThe cost in purchasing a pet may vary, some are gifts, some have a price to purchase.

Yet, whether you are given a pet as a gift or pay to own a pet, it will be your responsibility to their lifelong commitment in you giving them the care and relationship of the pet needs. There’s the cost of nutritional needs in feeding your pet, accessories you will need such as cages, tanks, leashes, harness, bowls, crates, bedding, blankets, toys, training pads and other possible accessories needed depending on the type of pet and if the pet requires and has special needs. There may also be costs for additional medicines, supplements and treating illness. Having pet insurance and/or a (care-credit card) can come in handy for pets vet visits (check and see which veterinarian offices are participating ones to honor care-credit , many do). If your pet for one reason or another doesn’t work out, you must know or consider what you will do to ensure the safety and ongoing love and care of the pet, even if it did not work out with you.

Pets Emotions and Feelings: Pets have feelings and emotions just as humans do and all they really want is to please us and be praised and properly cared for. 

Your pet may have an issue that is undetectable by just looking at them. Your pet may not be feeling well, they may need or want something, they may be trying to tell you something (since they are unable to talk) they often will-act out, they may keep bothering you and won’t test or calm down or they may act different then they usually do, they may not want to do much and they may do something annoying or even behave badly. Subsequently, 99% of the time, your pet is trying to communicate and it may be something that (you as the pet owner) had done, is doing or not doing and needs help with that caused the upset. There may be something that you will need to figure out and take care of (especially in the way of miscommunication or misunderstanding your pet). Your pet may be trying to alert you to something; it could also be that the pet owner is not doing something efficiently, incorrectly or just out of sync with the pets needs.

Luckily today, if we are having an issue or problem with our pets we can reach out upon the internet to others that have (the same type of pet or issues) and ask for advice.  Pets can get excited, sick, scared, be fearful, feel pain, be sad, depressed, bored, lonely, hungry, thirsty, need to go to the bathroom, need to feel being loved, want to play, need exercise and need to be happy, etc.. “Pets can be similar to children, but age much quicker”. Pets emotions and feelings can also be helpful because they can often sense our needs and some are trained to do specific things to help us.. Pets should always be and are needed to be treated Humanely, with Compassion, Proper Care and Love. All over the world, abuse and cruelty towards animals has been recognized and it is now a crime to mistreat an animal.

As in anything else, but especially with our pets, the more compassionate, caring and understanding you are to your pet, the more positive experience you will have with your pet. I have had much success in talking sweetly to my pets (and plants!) I think they positively respond to those vibrations.

Feeding your Pet: Feeding the correct amount and the most nutritious type of food to your pet, will be extremely important and the costs will vary depending upon the pet.

As in humans, the best nutrition is not always readily available and many-a-times, pets will also need additional, nutritional, “Add-In’s” into their daily foods to ensure a balanced diet. When choosing your pets food, you need to consider, the amount needed (according to size and healthy weight of pet), the ongoing availability in the foods being stocked in stores or having it delivered, the time for preparation and the overall cost. Just as in humans, it seems the most nutritious foods are usually more expensive, there are some foods that ‘both humans and their pets can both eat’ and that can be cost efficient (research to find what foods can be safely given to your type of pet). Pets like treats as well, either after their meals, as rewards or just as a treats. You can find many healthy treats for your pet (always read the label’s before you buy or give anything to your pet to ensure there is nothing in the ingredients that could get your pet sick, “just cause it’s out there to buy, doesn’t mean we should”). The food and nutritional needs can also change as the pet gets older, as so can the care for your pet. Pets should never be fed food that is outdated, highly fatty, left over and possibly spoiled foods (some people think it’s okay to feed food a human won’t eat, if its old, moldy or etc) and this is wrong, it can cause kidney, liver and digestion problems to your pet and can end-up being fatal.

Pets health is just as fragile as anyone else in your family and what you would consider not good, too fatty or spoiled food, is also not good to give to your pet. Clean Fresh (preferable purified and some fluoridated water, once in awhile for their teeth) water needs to be accessible at all times and keep your pets water and food bowls clean, designate towels and dish cleaning brushes just used for your pet (their food and water bowls can get slimy and cause bacteria and germs can spread to your pet and make them sick).

*~ I have spend many years and many dollars learning a method of creating balanced life and diet for all types of pets (even on a tight budget). I have been fortunate that my pets have all lived a longer than average lifespan, even if they had become old or sick, I researched, learned and experienced the best possible care to give to them.

Pet Care Costs: If your pet is getting proper nutrition and good care, there will likely be less costs in veterinarian bills. However, just like humans, all pets need a reputable doctor that you can take them to. All pets, just like humans can get sick and may need medical attention.  

Pets need check-ups and as your pet grows and becomes older they may need supplements, vitamins or medicines. Some pets require supplements, vitamins and medicines even throughout their life, for a more quality life. Some pets need more grooming than others; this can be done by teaching yourself how to properly groom your pet or taking your pet to have them groomed. Some pets need their nails trimmed, some types of pets need their teeth filed and some have lots of hair and need that taken care of. All pets need to be cleaned and washed, some will need to be cleaned more often if they get dirty more often, most require washing every month or so according to the weather, lifestyle or their needs, (It will vary from pet to pet). Some pets live in cages, some pets live in water, some pets have bedding of their own and all of these need to be cleaned on a regular basis (just as we need to clean our own bedding and home).

There can be additional costs if you need to board you pet, if you cannot take them with you on a trip, vacationing or if having company and may need to board them just for the day or so, to help things be less hectic. When boarding your pet, often they will need to be up-to-date on some vaccinations and medicines if need be (dogs and cats are usually required to be on some type of flea and tick medicine as well). Many counties we live in require dogs to have update rabies shots (laws now; senior dogs 7-8yrs and up can be exempt as it can be hard on their health) . Make sure to keep a folder of all records of your pets vaccinations and any medicines given, etc.. and do not “over vaccinate or over medicate” your pet. Today there is countless information about what our pet’s really need as far as vaccinations (according to their lifestyles, size, weight and type of pet). More and More these days pet owners are and have been dealing with a lot of issues with allergies in their pets, diseases and cancers. I feel (just as in humans) it has been the overly processed food (out of convenience) that we have fed our pets and not enough fresh foods or proper nutritional foods for the type of pet we have and giving our pets (that are told by veterinarians to administer dosages of monthly flea, tick and heart worm medicine) given monthly for years at a time, as well as over vaccinating.

Pets can live longer than ever today, with proper nutrition, cleanliness, being educated on their balanced nutrition and vaccinations. As well as any monthly supplements, vitamins and medicines given if needed. Always look for danger (awaiting to happen), check to make sure danger is away from your pet and anything that they could get into that could harm them; as in chemicals on lawns, poisonous plant, things left on the floor or  in garbage cans and in-their reach where they can accidentally get to it and ingest something that could harm them. 

*~I gave my dogs flea, tick and heart worm medicine each month for years and I think it eventually made them ill, I decided to only give those kinds of medicines to them if they have to be boarded (since they will be around other animals) or if we were to travel somewhere different with my dogs, or if they were going to be constantly around a lot of water that may attract mosquitoes. “I am not saying not to give flea, tick and heart worm prevention to your pets that require it” and there are several natural remedy products on the market and that we can use instead of chemical poisons. Especially if there is a concern about these with your pet, if there’s a flea problem, boarding them around other strange dogs or if your pet is outdoors majority of the time, travels a lot and etc..  I just took notice of the factors upon my senior dogs that had religiously been given for years, each month flea, tick and heart worm medicine. I do believe in giving them flea, tick and heart worm prevention, but only as in a situation when they may be need it and not every single month for years~*.

Making Time, Getting a Routine and Exercise: Another necessary consideration, is making adequate time for your pet.

This will include (one of the most important factors besides your pets nutrition) “a daily consistent routine” (at least consistent as possible). The more consistent in your routine daily with your pet, the better flow it will create between you and your pet you. Figuring out a schedule or routine will be very important because if you just try and fit in the pets needs as your day goes by, things will tend to get out of sync and this will make it difficult for your pet to know what to do and when. Then, it will get stressful in dealing with your pet and things may not flow as well in your pet building trust in you or creating a good close bond healthy relationship with you.

    Another important concern in time and care of your pet care, is handling their elimination process (going to the bathroom) Some pets will require your assistance in getting them outside and directing them to when and where to go to the bathroom (and you will need to clean up their poop) whether they go out and use someone else’s yard (on a walk) or even if they use your backyard, you will need to consider picking up their poop, so they don’t run or step in it each time you let them out and then bring the residue of germs back into your home and try and lick themselves to clean it off (you may even need to clean and wipe their paws off as they come back into the house, so the bacteria and germs aren’t carried around with them) . Other pets will require you to keep an area with a designate box or such for them to go to the bathroom (which you will need to keep clean) and other pets (such as a fish, gerbil, hamster, rat or etc.) their cage or tank will be required to be cleaned and/ or change their cage stuffing and all of their dropping and keep their cage and all that’s in it clean, so not for it to be building up and them living in their own waste.

    Often pet owners get angry at their pet for having accidents (such as, going to the bathroom in the house) but just think for a moment, if you had to go to the bathroom really bad and were not properly told or did not know when you’d be able to go, you’d probably just find a place to go eliminate because you needed to. This is  what happens much too often and pet owner’s blame the pet or they punish the pet, when actually it was the mere fact that their pet just needed more guidance and training (time) until both pet and owner had a routine of some kind figured out. Meanwhile, pet owners must be considerate of their pets needs. Pets are living, breathing, active and loving creatures and their needs and feelings need to be considered, they are not disposable toys.

If your pet requires you to take them on a walk or let them out to go to the bathroom, you should take notice when and if, your pet does go to the bathroom (just to be sure your pet did go, before letting them back in the house). Especially if you are going to have to leave them for any length of time, so to let them go outside to go to the bathroom, to help ensure they had a chance to go and went.

Just as Humans need exercise is the same reason, pets need exercise. Even if you have a large backyard or a fenced in yard that you let your dog out, so they can go to the bathroom, run about and get some exercise; there still will be a need to walk your dog on the sidewalk for a nice walk together, at least whenever you can ( more the better). Dogs can become bored and this can cause may issues, even obsessive licking, scratching and chewing on themselves (and other things). In order to get enough or proper exercise, your pet may need additional equipment in their cage, some pets will need leashes or harnesses. As, dogs seem to need more exercise than other pets and can end-up lacking it the most, as their owners may not exercise much, have much time or don’t make much time for exercising or just don’t feel like taking the dog out for a regular walk and get exercise, but it is a health oriented requirement. As dogs get older (senior dogs are 7-8yrs and up) may need their exercise limited or adjusted (depending on the dog) in what they are capable of and may need more rest on a walk or less time out on a walk, but still should get out in the fresh air and get some exercise. The fact that humans need exercise, gives a great opportunity to get out and do it together.

Basic Commands and Additional Training: Take the time, practice , consistency and focus on mastering , one at a time.

Training a Pet takes time in practicing, patience and consistency . If your pet is a dog, it will be very important to teach them basic commands, as these will be needed to help communication and used for safety as well. Some basic ones for them to learn and obey are; “Sit, Stay, Shake, High-Five, Kiss, Lay Down, Get Down, Roll over etc.. Work on mastering one command at a time, once mastered, go onto the next. Any pet can learn a command, some will be able to learn more, some can learn many commands and tricks, just depends on the time, patients and and training.

I hope this can help others with pet ownership. If you know someone with a pet or thinking about getting one, share this article with them.

I have had many people ask me about reliable information from products to illnesses (pet owners of all kinds of pets, with many issues and concerns with their pet) and I have helped them. If you would like to ask me a question concerning a pet or pet ownership, you can do so by leaving a response and I will send back a response. Let others know of my blog ..

Thank You for reading, there was a lot to tell.

C. Star.V

Before Covid-19

Looking back now, how we all lived before the pandemic hit us.

We used to go outside without thinking about wearing protection from catching a disease or even if we need to disinfect everything that we may get in contact with while being out.. We didn’t have to worry about getting too close to others or to even think about being near others at all. We freely made reservations for dinner at restaurants, events, concerts, travel and went to state parks, public pools, the beach, social gatherings, family get-together’s, and more.

We just went about our day to day living and going to our jobs, attended our schools, colleges, dr. appointments, therapies or treatments for ourselves or our pets, without having to worry about having a mask to put on or having to have our temperature taken before we are allowed inside. Also, we didn’t worry about if we were going to even have a job available to go to or if the schools or colleges were going to stay open for our children or us to attend.

If we had gotten sick or injured, we didn’t think twice about going into a hospital. We weren’t afraid of being at risk for catching a pandemic disease or being subjected to the chaos during a pandemic or being used as a statistic.

Many people weren’t as hygiene conscious and many didn’t think about germs too much or even if they remembered to wash their hands not only daily, but even before and after they ate, went to the bathroom, touched their face, got out of their car, brought things home from a store, grocery store or from getting packages ordered through the mail.

All of our lives have been affected and effected somehow and we are still feeling the aftermath of the 2020 Pandemic first hitting us all. So, as we continue through the tail end of this pandemic’s the strict procedures and as vaccinations are being produced for it, we can only pray and hope that soon it will be fully over.

For now, we are living in a changed world and for most of us, we are making our way back to the lives we remember before the Covid-19. Yet, there still will be a need to continue to be aware, kind, yet cautious and hopefully conscientious of the new standards for cleanliness and hygiene..

Well, until we reach a resolution to this crazy, restricting pandemic, build your immune system, keep your hands clean and stay alert and safe out there!!!

C. Star.V

 

Have You Started Yet?

It’s seems as though each year we all have more and more we do, want to get done and are kept so busy, at least for most of us..

Time passes by so quickly and often it feels as though, there’s never enough time to do ‘all’ the things we would like to or even need to each day. We can’t seem to get everything done, since it feels as though there’s so much to cram into one day. Then as time passes and if we didn’t get everything we wanted to get done, we may not have properly prioritized or didn’t use time wisely.

Even though we may not want to waste time as, “Time is like money, money is like time” and when we seem to have less of either one, our options start running out”.

Sometimes it’s like a funneling effect as time escapes us. We could start losing our optimism, our positiveness, our outlook and we may start to become very pessimistic. We may even start disliking things around us, even people around us …We begin to lose our focus, our gratitude, our purpose, we start to second-guess ourselves and all of what we may want or wanted.

This can happen, even if you have been doing okay all along. Why?

Mainly because we go through some events or happenings several times. Possibly, until we learn how to get through them and past them, even if they were paths to keep on or not go through again. Although, we may have even got over them, moved on and have been successful or accomplished something (maybe not as much as we wanted to as of yet), but we at least made it through, as we keep looking forward to the next day, next event, next encounter, next experience as it will all be valuable and worth something.

Though we still may find ourselves struggling over again…..struggling with ourselves, our ideas, thoughts and etc. If this happens and when it does, don’t get upset or sad, it is a just a re-check. Re-checking to make sure you keep in control of your life..Making sure you are not repeating your mistakes or having misunderstandings about something and may need another view of it or a second opinion. Seek positive-purposeful advice.

So keep Working ‘at’ something, ‘on’ something or ‘at’ somewhere, in order to get other plans to take flight . Greatness can take time (even learning happiness, takes time) think of all the things that get better  only within time) good opportunities, good careers, expensive beverages..you get the picture!!

Just make sure you come up for air while you are grinding away, take notice where you are going, make sure you have a plan of some kind to keep focused on, even if it has to change a bit. Often, one plan will led us into another one, but that’s ok , as long as it is working out and keeps you going towards your goals and purpose. Get involved with others that have positive-purposeful attitudes and the same goals and interests.

Not all of us will become doctor’s, lawyers, teachers, celebrities and etc.. there is a reason and purpose for all of that and a purpose and reason for each one of us.

Learn a skill, possibly one in helping others. Which can be something that, will even help you have income. No matter how insignificant it might seem to you, there is a greatness in everything..

“Those whom can see ahead of themselves while on the bumpy road, have a better chance of making it through”. Be kind and cheerful no matter what you are working at or working for, good attitudes are terrific virtues and are eventually noticed, rewarded and then duplicated. Our health, mental attitude and coping skills, are concerns we need to continually work upon, for without these we compromise all the quality in our lives….

“Give yourself more Reasons, less Excuses”.

C.Star.V

Any New Year, Starting Out

It’s a new year, let’s realize about starting out…

One of the single most important aspects of enjoying life, is of course making better choices and using our energies in an efficient way. It’s also in not having to be overly worried about things that will either, stress us out all the time or in keep us all, in such a rush.

So how do we keep from being overly worried, stressed out and in a rush?

Well, along with learning to prioritize, using time management tips and focusing on being purposeful, living within ones means and making the most out of the time given, is a start.

Most successful people will tell you these few words : “Well, when I started out”

Yes they all “Started Out”, they started somewhere, by doing things they were willing to do; even if they may not have liked it or doing it. However, they also didn’t just wake up and were placed in the place that made them great or successful .. Even those whom have inherited great things, have to be willing to do and learn what they need to do and do it well, otherwise they risk losing it all.

“Things don’t go well and stay well if not taken the time and efforts to keep them going well”. It’s in the efforts, in the interest of purposeful, in the information required and learned and in the actions. As in the saying; with great power comes great responsibility .

Those who feel the need for much, will often need to handle much. Those who can be happy with less, will feel less burdened.

The best thing to do, is make efforts in starting out, it can be the “Starting Out” of anything or at any level (keep it positive) and for youths (as everyone should already) start, figuring out the stability and security in your life, in what you are going to do or ‘learn to do’ to make an income and create a supportive purposeful-self . So, you’ll be able to pay for the roof over your head, transportation to get you around and healthy foods to keep you feeling good. Once those are in place, you will have less to worry about and can concentrate on the next things needed and then, other things wanted

I did say less worry, but not less work or less things to worry about. Although keeping ones priorities straight, boundaries set and proper attitudes in place will help.

If you don’t start to figure out your income, manage your finances, your shelter, and your lifestyle for yourself , while you’re young or ‘get these things started’ for yourself, by the time you are middle aged it will be a lingering plight and then you will have created more stress and worry…

“No one has the ability to turn back time, so don’t waste more time trying to.” Just start to learn things and do things for yourself that will give you a purpose and will be useful to you, even for later (this goes for any age). Your future self , will thank you.

… Use Your Time Wisely…

Happy New Year!!!

C. Star.V

The Effect and Affect of our Lives.

I have written previously on this blog about the choices we make, as well as the good’s, bad’s, right and wrongs. Yet, when speaking about the outcomes from our choices and decisions, whether it turns out good, right, wrong or bad; it is only ‘us’ that will be truly able to determine this for ourselves. We have the ability ‘to put or place’ the experience, the moments or the what-evers, ‘wherever-or-however’s-the way we-choose’ (ahh again another choice).

Ya’ see, we can allow it to consume us or not to consume us and as well , how we relate it to us in whichever way chosen. We can adjust it within ourselves, even the levels in which we will let it upset us or not. This will be, all in how we convey it, within and to ourselves (and to others). This all will be determined by us.

Yes, in how we allow it to ‘effect us’ and ‘affect us’. That is why, sometimes we will run across people that may have experienced some of the same things as ourselves and some will feel the same way as we do and others may choose to feel differently. Now, I did say ‘they choose to feel differently’ because well, we can choose.

Think for a moment of something that you have experienced, whether it was either good or bad. If it was good, will you want to remember it? How will you use this experience? How has it helped you? Will you share it to help others?

If it was not so good or bad, will you want to remember it? How will you use this experience? How has it effected or affected you?  Will you use the experience, share the lesson or forgive to forget it? or will you harbor it like a collection of something you have no use for and allow it to use up time and space (in your life and in this case, your mind). Will you allow it to be added to your collective negative thoughts, just waiting to explode, make you feel like a victim at every situation in your life and hinder you from enjoyment and progress?

Time waits for no one, (very famous saying) and a true statement because it’s time consuming and useless to harbor negative feelings. There’s no period of time in your life that will wait and stand-still as you hold onto sad thoughts, bad feelings, or anything of the such. You have the power, for it to ‘not have a negative effect or affect upon you’. It may take some key lessons, such as forgiveness, courage, integrity and possibly a bit of prayers and education, but you are the gatekeeper with the keys, use those keys…

C. Star.V

Really No Good or Bad

Some of my past posts have been about choices, the wrongs, rights, goods and bad’s and well, morally or lawfully ; yes there is a wrong and a right..

However, basically there is no good or bad, when it involves our choices, but only choices we will deal with. You see, when we choose things and it put us in paths of being around, involved in/with or doing things and if it ends up being a bad thing (even ingesting wrong things), then we just are are dealing with what we have chosen..

If things begin to really go haywire, it’s not that we have to accept our choices and drown in our mistakes..we can right the wrongs.. Unfortunately, this may be easier said than done. However the first step is to realize our wrongdoings or the wrongdoings of others and forgive ourselves and others. Then, coming to an understanding of why we may have made that choice in the first place and it’s OK if we might’ve made a wrong decision or wrong choice and it may be possible to be corrected or have things be turned around.

However, sometimes it’s just not right to continue on with those choices because in some instances, trying to make things right is not always going to be right or work-out the way you want, (unless being forgiven or an apology, is all that is needed). For the times where things just won’t be turned around .. the key here is realizing for starters; is it morally or lawfully right or wrong and what makes it so..and why it will or will not be turned around into something good. Which, this now will turn into another choice-often called ‘a decision’ and these types of choices are usually made from what efforts we are willing to put forth from there.

Yet, it isn’t always right to try to keep in a wrong situation, trying to make it right either, it just depends (on what it actually is) and before making a major decision, we should reach out and talk about it (to those who really care about us or get professional opinion or advice) because sometimes, it’s just learning how to cope or make a better choice and what we should and should not do or we may have to just forgive ourselves and any others involved and move on from it and cope with it the best we can.

C. Star.V

The “Right” Flow ?

One major lesson that I’ve learned in life is when things are right (or shall I say, when there’s a positive energy flow) it seems to feel right and everything flows. There may be ups, downs and struggles, but they may just be in the course of getting through or they are usually figured out and there’s a pleasant outcome.. ..but when things are wrong they are just that.. wrong..

Now I’m not speaking here about morally right or morally wrong because we should all find that easy to recognize, (but it could apply to those). I’m speaking in terms of basic daily living experiences and situations. For, as we all make efforts in our lives, we could be using our energy on the wrong things, in the wrong way. This is not always easy to recognize because often we just pursue something we want, no matter if whether the signs are there or not. Why do we do this?

Well, because we can..We all, have a free-will to do so..(and of course, if we react upon “Emotion, instead of Logic”).

Let’s not get this confused with (the difficulties and persistence) while pursuing an education, getting help, counseling or persevering through, to achieve something..As the outcomes from our efforts are good. Even becoming employed in a new position or job may feel challenging or daunting. However, often it is just until the duties of the job are learned that it flows better, but trying to choose the right or wrong type of job to begin with can be an issue. Yet, employment can be compared to educating oneself because there is always a benefit in learning something at the end of the takeaway.

Many people give up on learning something or working on something because they start to spend their efforts and then it may feel wrong because it is a bit difficult or too much effort. That can also be true, when people are trying to eat healthier or lose weight .. the key here is to realize the end results.

Yet, there’s another right and wrong situation, which many have found to be upsetting, it is when we (or someone we know) gets involved with others that turns out to be wrong and not going in a good direction. Now getting into the wrong relationships with others (whether just friendships or intimate ones) or just following a path, a direction or social gathering, that could have a bad or have repeatedly bad outcomes, these all can be a bit tricky to deal with.

Sadly, in these situations we take upon the responsibility of making efforts and spending our energy upon something, even if it might not be the best choice. Then we often feel very obligated and committed because we put so much effort in already. Then it can be very difficult to steer away from it or try to change it .. this is where we have to make a decision upon the worth of the situation and the parallel of the intentions of ourselves and of what we are putting the efforts into..

When it comes to relationships, it will also depend on the other person and how they behave and if they are able to improve or take steps in working to correct the wrongs..

The key here is recognizing what the benefits are in being in this relationship  or situation and what kind of repeated unfavorable behavior is being coped with..

Sometimes I hear people say that things were once wrong , but it turned out right and that could be so, depending on what the issues and behaviors were in the first place and what efforts were made. So, things may end up good and turned around for the better , but that’s a whole other story.. For now being more selective with our choices and along with, not getting into a serious or permanent relationship without recognizing what the end results of our live could be for ourselves (and for others) ; as we could end-up dealing with a situation that may turn out wrong.

So, a way to recognize the flow of right from wrong is to consider what the end results could be, what total efforts are being made and the intent to begin with.. Most importantly, don’t make choices, upon emotions or wants. Think first what the outcomes may be and not just for yourself, but for others around you, (such as your family, friends, children and even your pet) all of these will be effected as well.

C. Star.V

A Simple Credo

Here’s a simple credo:  From the Token Soul

 1. Recognize the need for less chaos yet, more function in our lives.

 2. Realize, there is an action needed to accomplish this by taking responsibility for our own life, thoughts, choices and actions. Be accountable for ourselves, take more charge of our own lives and cooperate with others.

3. Realize the ‘intent’ of our actions. As well as becoming aware of what the outcomes may be and what we may need to learn. This can help to better cope with what we may also, already have in our lives and stop the self-sabotaging of our own purpose and could clear up many issues.

4. Keep the past, in the past through forgiveness and being involved in the present and future aspects of our lives. Set small goals, then bigger ones.

5. Believe that, an energy power greater than ourselves can and will help us. Only if we believe in it, call upon it to do so and be sincere when we are asking for help. We must be sincere in accepting the terms of  resolving our issues as well. Understand, that this “Ultimate” power-level of energy (that is greater than our own) takes accounts for many things you choose in our world now and beyond. We are also able to connect (bond) with this energy for guidance, protection and help. (whew! this should take some weight off our shoulders).      

6. Accept the fact that we may not ‘always’ enjoy or like, our destiny at ‘all times’, in or along our journey(s). *~For even though, a “Destiny” can be viewed as a  journey’s end, it may also be a path we are on, not just a destination to reach. If we governor over, ourselves and our destiny(s) in a more positive way and we may feel more at ease, yet not that it may become less difficult on the path, but that it will ‘seem less stressful’ in getting to where we are destined to go~*

7. Remember that what happens to us in our lives (even on a daily basis) is what we put into it and what we perceive it as or to be. It is the reflecting of our own opinions, choices and decisions.

8. Learn how to remove the negative energy and make room in our mind/brains and our lives, for good things by removing and keeping out the bad things. Learn also to Forgive ourselves as well as others, but set personal boundaries (so not to repeat upsets) and take the time to meditate and unwind (in a healthy manner).

9. Help others do all of this too.

10. Understand that, there is no need to be overly-worried about the how’s and why’s, of all of us being here on earth in the first place or be overly-obsessed about it. Everything takes place, will take place and infinitely the cycle keeps going (to help us all with our enjoying, learning, sacrifices, pain, and suffering, now go back to #1).

C. Star.V

Our Brain and Thinking

The human animal once had smaller brains, but over time the brain developed and became much larger and with this, humans were able to be deeper thinkers and ones to make better judgment and decisions. The fact that the human diet had something to do with the evolution of our ‘bigger brains’, has us believing that eating healthier has its benefits.

As well, it is important what we input into our minds and the things we expose ourselves to, what we choose to watch, read and think. Most of us humans, have similar choices and decisions to make in our lives. However, there are many factors that are different, such as, age, monetary factor , environment and experiences.  The ‘Generation Gap’ of yester-years used to signify the overall differences in people of different ages and often this has and can cause misunderstanding, confusing and otherwise disagreements upon issues and topics among those of different age generations..

Such as, of a person in their 40’s and a person whom may be only 19 years old. If asked both, the same question about something (random nothing even specific) their answers will only reflect what they may ‘only’ really know within that point of their life and this can also be applied to their behavior and actions. Since the 2 different minds/brains will not only comprehend and perceive things in which they know and this could be quite different and view even the same things much differently. So, these differences can have us, constantly misunderstanding each other.

At one part of our lives and in developing, we may think and feel a certain way and then at another time or part of our life we may feel and view things differently and often we use the term “Mature” when a person copes well or understands more for their age. Yet, we will only know, what it is that we either have learned, experienced or can envision and of course, what we have evolved up to . Which many a times, may not be reflected or used (by a mature person) when they are handling a situation and become angered, frustrated and even disappointed. Whether it be the person coping with themself or helping another person in need of coping with themself.

We can also witness a sad partaking in inconsideration of others in people of all ages and this can make anyone feel upset and could cause additional harassment, ridicule, bulling and abuse of a person, child or animal; for someone if any age just ‘not knowing’, not understanding or not comprehending something that should not “Automatically be expected to know”.

Yet, most of us humans should already be aware that “Not one of us inhabiting on this planet can possibly know everything about everything” and should not take offensive towards others (even their pets), for not knowing something or how to do something and cause hurt and abuse to others (even innocent animals). As this can become a dilemma if not dealt with correctly.

One simple example of the ‘not knowing’ could be a parent bringing a child or children to doctors office, it’s usually a long wait. If they do not think to prepare to bring a bag with books, crayons, drawing pads or age appropriate toys, games and other needs such as, snacks, diapers bottles what ever they may need to cope, handle and take care of child while they wait, dilemmas can arise. Another example is, going into a store with a child or any place, where if the child is not told ahead of time what is expected of them and how to behave and what will be the reward or consequence, then what do parents expect?

None of us come born with instructions and surely none of us are born knowing everything . “Especially everything we will need to know, for every instance in our lives”. It will need to be taught, shown or experienced before we do. That’s why Parents and pet owners especially need to understand this because pets and children are great responsibilities and it takes much effort, care and learning the know how’s, plus coping skills, to create a more pleasant experience. Being aware that if it isn’t shown ‘how to’ and ‘not to ‘and ‘what to do’, then don’t expect it to be known and then punish unjustly. Using our brain capacity and development is much needed here. We need to fill our

Although, coping skills are learned and unless we have been properly shown or taught some valued lessons and some of these coping skills, many dilemmas can arise. Subsequently, people of all ages may have learned how to do many things and even to to cope well, but don’t necessarily use their knowledge to the best of their ability, either because they just don’t want to or don’t always have the energy to. There is massive amounts of information on how to get help, learn to cope with others and in educating oneself . Plus we are typically social beings and there are others all around us that are willing to help each other.

Meanwhile use your energy wisely, ask questions, learn all you can about coping and preparing yourself for the events and happenings and be learn interested in doing and knowing better for ourselves, one another, our children, the animals and nature inhabitants of our planet and our planet itself…

C. Star.V

Out of that Black Cloud

As the Choices we make will be bring us on different paths in our life, some will bring us into the light of positive outcomes and some may end-up leading us into the dark. While in this process (of our thoughts and intuitions of making choices and decisions), we often hear others express to us; that we may use our heart, head or gut when making choices and decisions.

However, most of it will depend upon our intent and purpose for choosing, but in doing so it all goes back to what we are making our choice or decision upon and how we will carry it out, deal with it and how we will allow it to relate to us.  

Many-a-times, we then spend our lives trying to make decisions in changing or correcting them and this can have us feeling overwhelmed. Our lives can seem to become all-encompassing and trying constantly, to get out from under a black cloud. Especially, when we have chaos, confusion, disappointment, defeat, turmoil, unhappiness or stress that sets-in and we often use our energies up; just trying to correct or change things. All this begins to create an imbalance.

This can be a bad thing. Since, living day-to-day is a multifaceted act and trying continuously to get past our troubles (that have already been created) may cause our perceptions of things, to begin to shift and often creates even more chaos, fear an imbalance.

All of this is governed by our will (free-will) which creates a force of energy that becomes an unstoppable action, which produces the results. Either way, the result is a force that could allow us to attain our goals, our deepest desires or to just choose what we are going to wear or eat on a daily basis, as well as choosing things we may regret. As humans, we often can be very stubborn, arrogant and persistent upon thinking, we know more than anyone else about what’s best for ourselves and therefore we do everything we can to try to force our-will into existence. Yet, when we are not on the right track and don’t find the sufficient way to balance the energies out, the universe will be right there to balance it all out for us.

Most of us will just ignore this fact, which is why most people struggle in/with life so much. “Meanwhile, we can get so busy trying to live a life we think we want, instead of being responsible for the one we already have chosen”. Yet, whatever it is that has or has not worked out for us . If it has not had the outcomes the way we wanted, it may never unless we take steps to change our attitudes in what we are doing and in what we are having to do to change it. This way, not to be destined to what we have chosen insufficiently.

In order to do this and steer ourselves out of the darkness, we need to only see that all of us, must keep a balance (of Physical and Spiritual) and need to take positive actions in order to move past our past, away from the negative and direct ourselves accordingly. Some of the best forms of this positive action (or energy) comes from, forgiveness, random acts of kindness, better judgment and educating oneself. So to be creating a force more powerful than you can imagine.

C. Star.V

Good vs Bad Choices

How are we really supposed to decipher between good and bad choices? Besides the obvious of knowing right from wrong and of what we have been taught or witnessed out of outcomes and observations. We can also use the 10 commandments as a set of 10 good common sense rules and we can use our own senses. Some people call it using our heads, hearts or gut feelings. Others may call it being mindful or being aware. It doesn’t matter what we call it, using it properly when we need to, that counts.

At one time or another, we envision how we want things in our life to be or how we imagine them, in our own minds to be. I say imagine because often we have an unrealistic perception of what it is or how things really need to be or the efforts it takes, in order to have what it is , that we desire or want in our lives. This can disappoint, frustrate and cause chaos in many of our lives. How many times, do we want something, such as, a relationship, marriage, a pet, raising children, a certain job or lifestyle or even just good health, but our lives don’t seem to turn out how we envisioned or imagined it to be? We hear of many people, children and pets abused, neglected and others stricken with illnesses and diseased.

It seems as though our society rushes to make choices or decisions without really understanding, preparing or realizing the whole picture. Many people make choices because of what others do or what others say to do, or what they feel they should do. Once a choice is made, it is often too late to undo it. However, there really isn’t a bad choice (well, unless it’s one that is against those 10 common sense rules, stated above) and depending on which one, will depend upon the Karma we will deal with in coping with it. However, making good choices vs making bad choices starts with learning to have good intent that runs parallel with it’s purpose.

The good news is, if our choices (don’t happen to turn out good for us), but were made with good intent; we will be able to adjust the purpose to end-up parallel with the intent. *Example, we wanted a pet, choose to get one, the intent was to have a furry-friend, to have fun with, and to love and one that will love us back. Yet, the pet isn’t obedient, feels like too much of a responsibility, causes chaos, stress and unpleasantness. So instead of the happy and pleasant outcome, the purpose is not seeming to run parallel with the intent. However, in taking the steps to learn tips and get advice on putting the pet and yourself upon a schedule, along with being patient with and understanding the pets feelings these efforts help . As well as, realizing what the pets needs are and making the efforts to make things right. From this, it will end-up with a successful purpose, which will now be parallel with the intent; which was to have a furry-friend, to have fun with and to love and one that will love us back. So, in choosing and making good decisions, (in any situation) we must first research, evaluate and prepare ourselves for the true whole picture and responsibilities, not just the one imagined in our minds or to fill the needs to be felt in our hearts.

C. Star.V

A Life is a Journey

As we all continue in our life’s journey, we will need to learn better coping skills, have more awareness of ourselves and our surroundings. Realize there’s more to our physical living that completes us, stop to take deep breaths, make your daily life less chaotic and slow it down bit. Within this, begin to take notice of insights and messages, be more careful and caring, eat food for nutrition not just taste, make time to enjoy more and stress less.

In doing so, we can create pleasant memories and more efficiently utilize our energies. Sadly many of us are convinced that Happiness and Goodness can not be easily created by themselves (especially, if they have ill feelings and traumatic past experiences) or they feel these realities are beyond their abilities.

The only difference between those who are able to achieve this and make better choices and decisions, are those whom make the choice to think outside the normal boundaries and understand that the key to achieving happiness , insight and enjoyment, is only believing …You can. 

C. Star.V

We all have a story.

We all have a story of our lives, as all of us are trying in our life to get everything done, something done, or nothing done. Getting through each day of what we experience and what we don’t. All Meanwhile juggling it all.

We may tell each other about doing the things we want to do in our lives and all the things we don’t like about our lives.. . Days run into nights, nights into days and what are we exactly doing?

Many of us, know what we are doing and of what purpose we serve, many of us are trying to find a purpose or trying to figure one out. Yet, we are all entitled to our lives and living them out. Whatever the situation may be, we are all here for a reason and are allowed to enjoy our lives, do the best we can and experience Joy!

Could there be things that are stealing our efforts and joy? Could we live a better life? Are we using our energy in the wrong way and on the wrong things? In the big picture, of how we can better live or be living through our lives, it may not be, as many of us may think it is. . There is so much good and wonderful things to feel, to experience and to know of. Yet, many of us often magnify the negative things, put the wrong emphasis on things and view life in a negative way or from a burdened view.

Some of us keep on paths that don’t serve us well. Some just do what is needed and others do whatever they can. Most of us have a plan, others may not have come up with one yet. Many need to shift their focus from the burdens to the blessing and from what’s wrong, to what’s right and from what you don’t have to what you do have, (often even as a starting point).

So, regardless of what we may feel is or has been absent or needed in our lives, it can be and ‘will be full of other things’ that can and will often fill that absence or need, and whether it turns-out good or bad (to us), will ultimately be our choice. Realizing this can help get a clearer view and steer us on making better choices and onto better paths…

1. “Outcomes” usually determines our reasoning’s and our opinions of if something is good or bad..so we need to make better choices for ourselves and put ourselves on better paths and purposes.

2. We need to respect mother nature and father time, nature is our truth and our balance secret. Time is also to be respected, used with caution and used as efficient as we can (time often goes along with space).

3. We are not built to physically last forever…yet, our energy may….in ways we may not thought of..

Stop to think about the stories of your life that you will tell, don’t rush, make better decisions and choices. Even if things don’t always turn out the way you would’ve wanted it to or thought it would have, it has value; for in the end it’s what you-make really matter that will take-up space in your life and mind.. Spend you time and energy on what’s going to count later on, (like your children, your family, your good friends, your pet etc..) and keep some free-space for those good stories you want to be able to tell..

C. Star.V

UnClutter Yourself

 It seems as though if we have a lot of choices, it can get more difficult to choose the correct ones.  Yet, if we don’t have many choices, it seems as though we can end up making bad ones.

This all plays out, each day in our lives and we have to first grasp the concept that there really is no good or bad choice.. Well the results might end up good or bad in our opinion and of our thinking of what is good(right) or bad(wrong) to us; of course there is obviously the reality of right and wrong.

However, even though we all should have a good idea of what is actually ‘right and wrong’ morally and legally and so forth (taught or learned) , but it may differ from each other since, we usually first use the good and bad aspect of things before we make choice. Yet, there are different views and different opinions on what is good or bad as well, and this can cause confusion.

Subsequently, if we already live in a life with much chaos, clutter and distraction, we can be blindsided and easily steered into making choices that are not so good and that we may even regret.

All of us seem to live in a world of ‘have-to’s’ and ‘need-to’s’, meanwhile constantly trying to find a way of the ‘getting to’s’ with the ‘want-to’s’.

A good way to start setting up an atmosphere of creating a series of better choices and success is to start with uncluttering and re-organizing (some people call it regrouping) because doing this clears the mind, soul and space! The art of uncluttering, is not just limited to only material things we have around us, but also of the uncluttering of our minds. We all have different methods and ideas in doing so and again, there isn’t any good or bad way of doing it, but possibly a more efficient and successful way.

The 1st step could be to begin to get rid of excessive material things around ourselves and in our living space (at the least to go through, clean up, reorganize and put away or store), especially things that are just literally taking up space and not necessarily something that you will be readily using or needing for awhile. This will get you going in the right direction, then create (a go-to or place) for things ‘as a home to put items in where it goes’ and this also begins to help.

From there, we can begin to see some clarity, what’s really important to us, focusing on what we next need to in creating more actions that will begin to steer us in the right directions. All this will begin to help us achieve the things we want to, instead of spending time purchasing more things, collecting stuff we don’t need and spending time trying to keep things cleaned-up and less chaotic.

This will make it easy to figure out, more of what it is we really need.                 

One of the biggest dilemma’s I find in many people, is that they are constantly worried about not having something or not having enough of something. This is not only a common issue, but it is a very sensitive and personal one and it brings us into such a monumental cause in worrying, stressing- over and even hoarding. Yet, so much time and energy is spent purchasing, worrying, stressing-over and hoarding ; sadly most of ‘these things’ we won’t even ever use, many of the things will expire or go bad (by the time we use them) and other these things we will really, never need.

I suppose it all stems from the fear of not having or not being able to get them, but it would only seem logical to use the energy and time in doing something more positive, that will ensure you won’t have to fear about that anymore.. Such as surrounding yourself with positive, caring and loving people, making friends and groups to socialize with (maybe even to barter things with) and spend more time learning skills, having fun and enjoying your life, instead of worrying about things you may not have.

This may even include relocating yourself and moving to an area that’s accessible for things that you feel you’re going to need.       

Most importantly, nothing is guaranteed even if you were saving something or hoarding some things that you think you’re going to need or that you feel is going to save or help you in one way or another, it may not end up that way. Since by the time you need it, there might have to be another solution, in fact …one that you should’ve already been working on.

 C.Star.V

Our Choices Have Value

“Our choices make up our world”

How do we learn right from wrong? How are we all suppose to know exactly what to do, when to do it, where to do it at and with whom? Our lives seem to bring us confusion, disappointment, hurt, pain, struggles and stress, as we figure it all out. Meanwhile, we wonder what we are here for in this world as we are trying to just survive.

There really is no one answer that fits it all, but we all need to understand just how important and monumental our choices in life can be and more importantly, is how we allow them to affect us.

Our lives start as infants, then toddlers, then pre-teens, then teens, then young adults, then older adults, then as seniors and then as an elder. Our world has been filled with more and more people, this means more and more opinions, views and choices. Often we, misinterpret one another because of the lack of, ‘wanting to understand’ or care about one another’s feelings, struggles or needs.  Along with, living in a society that doesn’t realizes the need to teach our children coping and ‘every-day’ living skills and then we are left dealing with a society of adults, whom already don’t know how to cope with just every-day life, either.

We may be steered into a way of life that may not be realistic, nor have allowed us to have learned the basics in life. Then, with each passing day we may not be as grateful and happy as we could be, but we still continue to use our free-will to choose and do what we feel, we want to or can do. There’s so much more then just the physical aspect of our lives and of only what we can see, that controls our outcomes from our choices. 

It is the energies put forth in our choices and decisions we make, that create our life and this, creates our world.  So, until we learn how to become more aware of the spiritual factors, we as humans will make our share of blunders, uh-oh’s and mistakes.

Yet, by taking responsibility (blame) for them, correcting what we can, asking for forgiveness, forgiving ourselves and others and then moving on from them, will give them value. Now that might sound a bit strange “To value our mistakes”, but after all, those were our choices. In doing so, it will bring forth growth, strength and the ability to make better choices in our lives.

C.Star.V